Our loyalty often tempts us to go the wrong way

It is often difficult to walk the straight line. When we do wrong things, we easily become defensive. We often make mistakes, because we lack interest and are inattentive while doing that thing. Our wrongdoing could also be due to our timidity, emotional imbalances, prejudices, and aggressive instincts. We go wrong due to our social, intellectual and moral failings. Kathryn Schulz thinks that doing wrong is not a moral flaw, but part of the learning process. We often make deliberate mistakes in the hope that such mistakes have good chances of becoming useful. It is often difficult to draw the line between error and wrongdoing. “Very often, there is a very thin line between fair criticism and fault-finding, between hazarding a guess and making a reasonable estimate, between a bonafide error and a deliberate mistake.”

We are all fallible. Once we recognise that we can liberate ourselves from the burden of trying to be permanently right and can respond to mistakes with empathy and generosity. We have an unconscious tendency to simplify the world, and that is one of the reasons of us going the wrong way. We don’t want to confront problems that are likely to create further problems for us. We often don’t see things properly when we look at them from within the system. Often, we have to go out of the system to see things in proper perspective.

We let things go the wrong way because we are afraid of being misunderstood. We don’t like to be scrutinised by others. We are good at keeping our eyes closed as per our convenience. We are good at transferring our responsibilities to others. We easily convince ourselves that any kind of intervention was not needed to solve the problem, and the problem would resolve by itself. This kind of intervention is more troublesome in small groups, where one of our motives is to exchange niceties. In small groups, it is more important to maintain cordial relations with colleagues. “The cosier and the more close-knit the group, the less incentive you have to stir the waters.” It is often easy to ignore than to explain. Why bother to find out the reason if it can be avoided. In many cases, it is additional work and no credit. Our loyalty often tends to overprotect, and often that tempts us to go the wrong way.