THE HOLY NEXUS – WHERE TO DRAW THE LINES

A close friend of mine lost his father recently

In a quiet moment, he reflected

His father never meddled with his decisions

My friend too avoided going to his father

For advice, who, anyhow, did not like the idea of

Offering unsolicited advices

He listened when he informed

He never demanded any obedience

And also never showed any authority

An emotional person the father was

'My son is the best', at times, embarrassed my friend

My friend often wondered

How one can be content with so little

Professional success always eluded him

But that made little difference to him

His only asset was his son

My friend’s father, however, was conscious of the fact that

He should not become a liability to anyone

It is now more than two years, my friend’s father died

My friend never imagined he would miss his father so much

Often, he is assailed by the feeling that

He never understood his father

He now realises that his father knew

Where to draw the line in a relationship

Bonds of a relationship are material and emotional

The survival of the bonds depend upon

Mutual commitments and expectations

'I need you’ is as relevant as ‘I love you’