The X-factors

Some people have privileged existence. Some inherit it and some create it. There are some who are called lucky because they can create their own luck. They know the paths of success and they consciously and methodically try to follow those paths. They are not necessarily more talented than others but they know how to maximise their potential better than others. Generally, they have the ability to get along well with others. They are ambitious.

It is generally believed that only those who deserve success get success but this supposition is not always true. It is also not true that only the hardworking gets success. For some success doesn’t necessarily involve some form of sacrifice or compromise. There are some who get more than they apparently deserve. The X-factors of success, according to some psychologists, are charisma, chutzpah, joie de vivre, and grace. Some people have these X-factors in plenty.

Some people are sharp and witty. They like to make fun of others but don’t like those who make fun of them. They know how to be brash or gentle, as the situation demands. They are excellent communicator and are endowed with all the overlapping components such as “expressivity, sensitivity, control, eloquence, vision and self-confidence.” Their verbal fluency has its own charm. They know what could be interesting to the other person. They are natural attractors, particularly to their female admirers. They are successful because they can envision their success.

Neuroscientists believe that people who possess originality and simplicity still need chutzpah to deliver on their potential. Some are neither original nor simple, nor do they have chutzpah, but they deliver, much better than those who possess these characteristics. They are popular, in spite of their audacious behaviour. They don’t like criticism. They are naturally provocative but with their natural boldness they can break the boundaries. They are known for their joyous spirits. Passionate exuberance is their forte. The good thing about exuberance is that it is contagious, spreads quickly, and expands people’s sense of possibilities. They know how to make others feel important. People envy them. You may not like them but it is difficult to ignore them.

This is how the magician Steve Cohen unlocks the secrets of influence, charisma and showmanship: “The trick itself is never important; it’s having a presentational hook.” Some people learn the ways of showmanship the hard way. They know that charisma has more to do with their image than with their innate abilities. Some people don’t let their star overshadow the substance in them.